[canucklady]

Hello,

I am new here. My dad died of heart attack. There was nothing anyone could do for him. He had a heart attack 3 years ago, and had angioplasty done. Then after 3 years, he had massive heart attack.

I don't know, am kind of confused, why his cardiologist didn't see this in follow-ups? Maybe I should have gone with him to specialists more.

I miss him so much. We are all kind of lost without him.

[ireneo]

I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad. Even though we know our parents may be in bad health, we just don't expect this to happen, don't want it to happen.

The doctors do all their tests, monitor the meds but bad things still pop up. My Dad had a heart attack years ago. They gave him meds, did all the check ups, kept his cholesterol levels way down. One day he had his checkup and his blood work was excellent. The next day he had a 2nd heart attack. He's had 4 now. There's only so much that can be done.

Going with your Dad to his visits would have been informative maybe, fun for your Dad to have company but it wouldn't have stopped the MI. Please take care of yourself, try to think on the happy memories. Blessings...

[Patoolla]

My sincere condolences for the loss of your father, Canucklady! I know and understand how confusing it is when something like this happens. I went through it with my father also. They say this is a normal reaction in the grieving process, first disbelief and the feeling of guilt thinking maybe if we had done ...... My faith in God helped me through my loss. I am a true believer that He already knows when our time has come and there is nothing anyone in the family or the medical profession can do to change that. Like Irene suggested, try to think of all of your good memories of your Dad. It also helped me knowing that Dad is in a much better place now! No pain and suffering, only joy and peace and serenity!

Welcome to the site here and feel free to write about your Dad and ask questions if you have any. We are all here to help each other! Gently hugs, Pat

[Catherine]

My heart goes out to you and your family in the loss of your dad. How old was he?

One thing that I'm sure he would want you to do and that is to learn from what he has gone through. You make sure you get your own health in order, take responsiblity for your own health and surround yourself with people that love and care about you.

Please don't be shy about asking us questions, either in concern with what your dad went through or what you can do for your own heart health.

Another nice thing that you've already done, in posting In Remembrance within Heartboard.com, your words will never be erased... they will stay there forever for you to gain strength from and any of your loved ones as well.

I will say a prayer for your dad and those that love him. It doesn't matter what your religous beliefs are, kind words from the heart is always a good thing and puts that positive energy out to the universe.

Catherine

[flycaster305]

Based on my own experiences, heart blockages occur very rapidly. It takes years for cholesterol to form into a problem, but minutes for it to erupt in the arteries and form a blood clot. You did nothing wrong, your doctor probably could not see this coming, your father probably didn't feel it's onset. I'm so sorry for your loss. Do keep in touch.

[canucklady]

Thank you all for your kind words of support.

I guess I am in the "what if" mode. I am trying to help my mom through all this. My dad was only 68 years old. It is hard, because it seemed like he was doing all the right things. I know God has a time for everyone and my dad is in a better place. But it is still hard.

My dad also had diabetes, which as I understand it causes heart problems. I didn't know that.

I know I have to take my own health into account too, but I guess the only risk I have at the moment is being overweight.

My brothers are all going to get full check ups at their wives insistence, which is good.

Thank you all again for your help.

[Denisefh]

Canucklady,
I am so sorry for your loss. I still feel the loss of my father who died from congestive heart failure 9 years ago, but I am doing like the others suggested and holding on to the good memories.

Heart disease can strike suddenly even though the person receives the best of care. There are things that even the best specialists can't forsee, so don't blame yourself for not doing more.

You were there for your dad as much as you could be and it sounds like he was blessed to have such a caring and loving daughter.

You have my deepest sympathy, and my prayers for strength and the health of you and your family.

Welcome to this site, though I'm really sorry that it's under these circumstances.

Hugs,
Denise

[kalip]

Hello and welcome to the site

My condolences to you & your family

These things do happen Doctors & medications
cannot prevent heart attacks all they can do is reduce the risks

Again,, my sincerest condolences to you & your family

kalip

[islandmomma]

Hi Canucklady from another Canuck. I am so sorry for your loss. Let us know if there is any info that would help...

jan

[canucklady]

i am not sure what would help now. it is so hard. i find myself crying all the time now. i can't even watch heart attack scenes on tv. isn't that terrible.

[Denisefh]

What you are going through is normal...and yes it's terrible, there's nothing easy about it.

After my brother died suddenly last May, for many months I thought about him and cried every day. Allow yourself your grief.

Hugs,
Denise

[Patoolla]

[b][color=purple]There is nothing harder than losing a loved one, Canucklady, and seems like nothing eases the pain. Like Denise said, we do have to allow ourselves to grieve and the pain is part of the grieving. Try to surround yourself as much as possible with your family and friends and never feel bad about crying and talking about your pain and loss. Tears are healing and the love and support of your loved ones is comforting to all of you. Gentle hugs, Pat

[canucklady]

It was my parent's anniversary today, my mom was having a hard time with this. We lost my dad in January. I took her to the cemetary, not sure if that was a good idea or not. I kept it together, drove her home, even tried to make her smile. I broke down as soon as I was driving away and she was out of sight. It is hard to watch my mom go through his, plus Easter is coming up and we all feel his absence. As my 4 year old niece put it "I dont want him in heaven, tell him to come back!!!". I wish it was so that easy. The worse thing was it was so sudden. We knew he had heart condition, but we didn't ever think we would lose him like that, so quickly. He went out to store, told my mom he'd be right back....never came home.

[vickimikeus]

There are so many firsts that you and your family will have to experience. They are always hard no matter what you do but staying together and talking about it is good. Grieving is not an easy or quick process. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Vicki

[Denisefh]

That's one of the horrible things about heart disease...it can strike out suddenly without warning and cut short someone's life.

As Vicki said, there are many events coming up which will remind you of your father and each one will be difficult. When my brother died (my mom had been living with him) she said that every single day some little thing would cause her to think of him and break down. It's been almost a year now, it's getting a bit easier for her. She still thinks of him everyday, but is able to feel the warmth from memories rather than the pain.

If you're the praying kind, you might use those times when your father's death is hitting you hardest to pray for him, and talk with him whether or not you pray.

All my sympathy,
Denise